I am breaking my year-long hiatus to come back on the blog. Why? Because of YOU. After sharing on an Instagram post last week about break-ups, I received DMs from 10 different people who had gone through a break-up the night before. 10 people!
Maybe your two-year relationship ended, or your crush got a girlfriend, or the girl you were talking to ended things, whatever and however long your love lasted, you deserve to hear these words of comfort. So, after a late night and too much caffeine 🤪, I bring you this is a journal about breakups and heartbreaks.
Breakup and heart break hurt, like a lot! I hope you love yourself kindly through this healing, restoring and grieving process. May you see your sadness as proof that you once had something worth celebrating. And if you lose something worth celebrating, you gain something worth grieving.
Grief is like treading water in the ocean. Sometimes you're doing just fine, it takes some effort but you are handling the waves that come at you. Then other times, a wave will come out of nowhere, catches you off guard, and you're pulled under into the dark and cold depths. What is so important is that you keep treading, you keep fighting, and you come back to the surface no matter how hard or exhausting it might be. Take your grief one wave at a time. 🌊🌊🌊
When healing from someone, you might have thoughts like, “I loved them more than I loved anyone. I never knew I could love someone so much. I’ll never love someone that much again”.
But, my dear one, your ability to love your ex didn’t come from them, it came from within you. You have always had the capacity to love someone deeply. Just because your love with another end doesn’t mean you can’t love as passionately like that again. They didn’t give you the capacity to love, they just gave you a place to express it. (oh that’ll preach!)
To grieve well, here are some practical next steps:
It may not feel like it yet, but one day soon, the grief will subside. Hours will pass when you don't think about them, when before they seemed to be your every thought. The tears will be less in numbers. The song you'd play together will no longer sting to hear. His or her name wouldn't make your heart freeze. You will start to see the truth clearly – all the good and all the bad of what you once had.
There is always a rainbow after the rain. Soon, you'll start to reconsider love, and despite the chances of pain again, you will believe love is worth another shot.
Well, dear friend, love is the greatest risk we take in life.
But, love, at the end of it, is always worth it.
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